Wednesday, February 6, 2013

Tastes like chicken...

I thought trying to get Michelle to SLEEP was a challenge. Then I embarked on the uphill battle of trying to get her to EAT. The rice cereal was a hit. I am grateful for that at least. I even videotaped her very first spoonful and posted it to Youtube (I posted a link in my previous post, "Solid food!") She did make a bit of a face. It was a shock to her after all, having something other than my milk for the first time but she ate it. Subsequent feedings haven't always gone so smoothly however. Though she likes the rice cereal, I sometimes even have a hard time getting her to eat it. If I feed her when she's not very hungry, she's not interested. If I wait until she is hungry (she breastfeeds every two hours so I try to wait until her next expected feeding session to give her the cereal in the morning and the evening and then follow it with milk) then she is cranky and goes ballistic. She still manages to get through the bowl one teeny spoonful at a time but sometimes it's a slow excruciating experience filled with tears and screams. Other times thankfully she gobbles it up with no fuss at all. You just never know from one day to the next what she'll do. I thought she'd get a kick out of holding the bowl and spoon herself and she did. She is a budding control freak already. She would love to do everything herself if she could.

It's tough when you try to do all the right things and you can't be sure what the right thing is. When it comes to starting solids it seems everyone has an opinion and they're all different. Some people said they started feeding their babies as early as 2-3 months! Others at 4-5. The What to Expect the First Year book says to start between 4 and 6 months. My doctor, the early years centre and Ontario's Nutrition Resource Centre all said not to start solids until 6 months. They said that the baby's body is not able to properly digest solids before then and that you can cause lifelong problems for them by starting too early. So that's what I went by. As far as what foods to start them on first, there is also a great deal of debate. Some say vegetables and fruit first and meat last. The Early Years Centre and literature from Nutrition Canada said that because a baby's iron level drops significantly at 6 months that they need a lot of iron and protein so you have to feed rice cereal fortified with iron and start the baby on meats like chicken and beef. So that's what I did. Also, to rule out allergies you have to introduce foods one at a time. So plain chicken with nothing else added. I stocked up on chicken with broth and plain beef so I'd be ready.

What the nutrition experts fail to warn you is that pureed chicken on its own is completely disgusting and there's about a snowball's chance in Hell of your baby eating it! I know how bad it is because I tasted it myself on my knuckle when I tested the temperature. It tasted like chicken but such a bland, awful version of chicken and with such a gross texture that I couldn't blame Michelle for complaining. She screwed up her face, gagged, turned away and cried. I was told that you can't keep the jars more than a few days once they're opened and she'd barely touched it. I didn't want to waste it so I tried to give it to the cat. Even Ali wouldn't eat it! You know a food is bad when your PET turns up her nose at it. I now see why the jars are so small. They actually need to be even smaller. No baby would eat that much chicken on its own in three days. I also understand why most of the baby chicken jars had chicken mixed with other things. Maybe they are a little more palatable. You can't give those as first foods though because you have to experiment with each food on its own separately. Once she's cleared on vegetables I can try those mixed baby dishes.

After I'd ruled out the possibility of allergy for chicken, I thought I'd try carrots. It was my Mom's suggestion. Maybe the carrots would be more appealing because they're a bit sweeter. My Mom thought if I mixed the carrots with the chicken, she might like it better. Not so much. She hated carrots about as much as she loathed chicken. The mixture seemed to make it even worse. She screamed. She would not eat it. Two negatives may make a positive but not when it comes to food. Stirring up two gross foods doesn't make them magically yummy. I decided to try a new tactic the next time I fed her. I'd give her a tiny spoon of chicken. She'd screw up her face but at least ingest a bit of it. Then I'd alternate with a spoon of carrot. She'd make another face but seemed relieved it wasn't chicken at least. I kept alternating so that she got a little of both. It kept her guessing what each spoon would be. It seemed to work. She grudgingly had the carrot thinking at least it's not chicken and took in a little chicken figuring at least it's a break from the carrot. Though a lot ended up on her chin, bib, sleeve and the tray, I know she swallowed some of it because her poo changed. It was a little orange and had some more texture to it (I never thought in a million years I'd be describing feces in a blog but life changes when you're a Mom!) Her poop definitely smells a lot worse now that she's having solid foods. It barely had a smell when she was only having breastmilk. I was using a lidless waste basket by the change table. With her new poo I could no longer leave the garbage uncovered so my Mom gave me a big tall aluminum can with a flip lid to use (one good thing about my Mom having so much stuff is that when you need something chances are she's got one! These days the less things I have to buy the better!)

Gradually I will try her on all different types of vegetables and finally fruits. Some say not to give fruit first or it spoils them for everything else because it's so much sweeter. I know that I love baby apricots. I even eat it myself sometimes. Others say it doesn't matter if you give fruit first. I'm not taking any chances. I want to make sure I get some vegetables and protein into her as soon as possible. Fruit is almost like a dessert. I'm hoping there will be foods she'll love so that I can hide other foods she doesn't like in them. I stocked up on jars of baby chicken. Maybe I can return/exchange them...

I went to pick up some more baby foods and a woman in the aisle suggested sweet potatoes as they were her daughter's favourite. Her little girl loved to eat though. I couldn't believe it when the woman said her girl was only 7 months. She looked like a toddler sitting in the basket portion of the shopping cart. She was big, wearing shoes, had a full head of hair. Michelle at 6 months in her carseat looked like a newborn next to the girl. I suppose it's all relative. Michelle is wearing 9 and 12 month old clothes but at the same time is very petite. My doctor was concerned she hadn't gained enough weight and wants to see her again in a few weeks to check her progress. I'm determined to get her weight up somehow. It's certainly not easy when she barely eats the foods. At least she's still breastfeeding just as much. She's so active she burns off everything she's taking in. I can't believe how much energy she has. It's exhausting! At least she has her cereal morning and evening but even that doesn't seem to slow down her nursing. I'm still nursing her every 2 hours. I told the doctor how active Michelle is but the doctor didn't seem to take that into account. It has to make a difference. I mean if I was doing jumping jacks 24-7 it stands to reason that I'd weigh a lot less than someone who sat around doing nothing and consumed the same or less calories.

People have suggested making my own baby food. I thought about it but there are two major obstacles in that department. One is that I don't even have a blender (I did but someone broke it and I never got a replacement.) The other is that I don't have a lot of time for cooking as it is. Trying to make baby food for her would be one more thing to stress about. She doesn't give me enough time to do anything as it is. Besides it sounds like after a couple of months they're supposed to start having bits of our food and finger foods mashed up as it is so I'm not going to go to the trouble and expense of buying equipment to make baby food that will only be consumed for one or two months. I'll make do mashing things by hand.

I was so relieved when I spoke to a woman at the Early Years Centre and she said that most of the nutrients Michelle needs at this stage, she's getting from my milk. Feeding solids at six months is more about introducing the baby to tastes and textures than it is about nutrition. It isn't until the 10 month point that most of her nutrition will come from food instead of my milk. So I've got some time to get her used to foods before then. I told her that Michelle is at least eating the rice cereal twice a day so she's getting her iron from that. The woman also suggested I try other sources of protein like eggs. I thought you could only give egg yolks at this point in case they're allergic to egg whites. She shook her head and said no that the latest findings show that you can give whole eggs. She said unless the parents have food allergies, baby should be OK with anything I'm eating. She gave me the number for Eat Right Ontario so I can talk to a Registered Dietitian for free anytime I have questions. She told me to try each new food for three days and then once they're cleared I can keep adding more to her repertoire. Someone else told me that a baby needs to eat a food about 15 times before they really get used to it or develop a taste for it. One Mom is a vegetarian so she's been giving her baby alternate sources of protein. It's good to know that's an option too if Michelle wouldn't eat meat. I'm going to keep trying though. I felt a lot less stressed after getting some feedback on the subject.

Since the carrots were a flop I figured I'd try other veggies and then take the plunge into beef. Now Michelle has been having peas for the past couple of days. Though she doesn't exactly love them, she doesn't hate them as much as chicken and carrots. At least she opens her mouth for the next spoonful. I figure if I find things she likes I can try to sneak a little meat into it. I hope to find many healthy foods that Michelle will love on this culinary adventure. She looks longingly at what I'm having and seems fascinated when she hears me crunching something. She doesn't understand that she needs teeth first. Teething. Sigh. That will be a whole new adventure...

7 comments:

  1. That woman gave you bad advice. Food allergies are on the rise and many allergic children are born into families with NO history of allergies. I know first hand - my son is allergic to eggs and soy. I would not want to deal with a reaction in an infant - it's very scary. Best to avoid eggs until she's older

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    1. Apparently the latest findings are that delaying food introduction does not prevent allergies and may actually cause them. It's so hard to know what to do. I know when I was a kid no one was allergic to peanut butter and now it seems so common that people can't bring peanut butter to school. I think if you keep kids in a bubble it's actually worse for them. At the same time I certainly don't want to expose her to anything scary. I'm going to speak with a Registered Dietitian to be extra sure but I think the bottom line is to take in all the information that's available and then make the best decision you can for you.

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  2. Mashed avocado & banana are great first foods. I think all babies act like Michelle when they first start solids. Don't stress - this should be a fun time to experiment and she's gaining knowledge about different textures and flavors even if she doesn't actually swallow anything. Put some on her tray and let her smush it around and lick her fingers. This can be fun! Of course, she may need more baths. My friend fed her son baby food in the tub!

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    1. Yes I'm going to try to look at it more as a fun experiment (which is a good metaphor for life in general as well!) and not stress so much about it. I did let her hold the bowl and spoon at one point and it was quite messy. I have to surrender to the fact that life with a baby IS messy and I can't control everything. I just have to roll with it! I'm just glad she eats a little bit & I'll keep trying different things.

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  3. Don't forget your dairy proteins too...cheese, yogurt, etc...At one point Elena would only eat something if it was dipped in yogurt!! Talk about gross? Try pureed chicken in yogurt!! Lol! I have the funniest video of her turning up her nose at a spoonful of plain chicken then gobbling up same said spoonful once it was dipped into yogurt!! Hilarious!

    I stressed a lot about solids early on but once I relaxed & let Elena lead the way, things have been great & now she's a great little eater!

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    1. I think the cheese and yogurt will come a little bit later. You're right I do need to relax about it. I am pretty sure she'll like the fruits because they're sweet (and even if she doesn't they won't be wasted because I'll eat them myself!)so I'm saving them for last. Working my way through the veggies first...

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  4. I'm not suggesting you delay foods to prevent allergies. I'm just saying there are common allergins like nuts & eggs that doctors recommend you wait until after their first birthday to introduce. The recommendation on delaying the introduction of egg whites has not changed.

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